I think I'm just biting my nails and walking in circles...

I'm working on this:

...even though I don't know if I like it.

It seems a little silly, but I just want to be done with it, so I can see what it looks like and move on. I'd rather be working on my digital images, and spend more time thinking about them... but with the recent computer crash, I lost my image software and am now waiting on the possibility of getting it back this week. So, I can't really work on that stuff, which I think would be satisfying somehow. And in the meantime, I am getting back to the glue and paint and gloss basics. There is a part of it that I enjoy, but I'm not there yet... when I get past the background, which is just tedious crap, then I can make it more image-based and there are often surprises that happen there.

I am also trying to write, and finished a couple of pieces, sent them out (and now can start collecting the rejection slips in earnest!) And of course there are many others, although I can't quite decide on which ones I want to re-enter. There are some that are closer to being done, but I really don't like them and think the language is trite. And there are those that are very far away from being done--they need whole structures developed, really. And then there are those that I flip back and forth between liking and hating.

In the meantime, I am brooding. Here's what I do when I'm not brooding (i.e. healthy activity):



Mostly I've harvested potatoes (about half of the ones I grew), chard, beans, peas, garlic, and a couple of spaghetti squash.

Below is the arch I made to go over my door as well. I had this plan to grow my sweet peas over it, and it seems to be working okay. But I was very pleased by how clever I was in building it cheaply and quickly: I drilled dowel-holes in the fence posts, and got big enough dowels to hold in some bendy-pipe, then afterwards twined it up to look slightly more O'Natural. And it worked. And the sweet peas are going to last another month hopefully! Just long enough to go over it and make it perfect.



Overall, I have to say the outer-perimeter is particularly impressive (to me) with all the flowers I put in to attract the pollinators. Here are more shots of the wildflowers, sweet peas, and sunflowers that line the edges...





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The rest of the time, I brood on the state of affairs or try to read. I've shifted away from focusing on Love in a Dead Language to focusing on an alternation between the short stories in Jesus' Son and The One Marvelous Thing. It seems like a good combination. Essence of masculine and essence of feminine, to be essentialist and reductive.

As I read them, I've been thinking about the difference between short stories and novels, and particularly about the recent discussion with my sister wherein she stated that she hates short stories and refuses to read them... and why it is that so many readers are similar, and why so many writers love (reading and writing) the short story form. My sister says that she wants the time the novels give her, the real chance to sink into a character or place or situation and be with them. Which I would agree with... that's what I like about novels too. But I also like the perfection of the short story, the crafted nature--how in a good short story, every word is considered, every piece is essential, there are no loose threads that are not loose for a reason. Everything is careful, gentle, wild and conscious, and the wisdoms (the sentences and images that ring in your head like a tuning fork you might reset your brain's pitch by) that I've found have usually been in short stories, songs, or poems... whereas that kind of incredible-ness is rare in a novel. Glorious when it happens, but rarer.

So... even though I'm trying... fighting the good fight to stop brooding via reading and gardening and collaging, my attention span is down. I still spend lots of time fretting about friendship, love, the past, and accomplishment, in no particular order or sequence. Bville has been quiet without SP... much like it was two years ago, and five years ago, and ten years ago. Quiet, sleepy, friendless-ish. Starting to re-suspect that most of my friends here are actually SP's friends. The cc friends of mine have been gone for the summer or withdrawn. JT has been pretty invested in his new relationship, which I can't begrudge as it seems to make him very happy. My friends who live in Seattle have been in Seattle. I find myself missing... ug, it's embarrassing... E. Imagining what it would have been like (had this / had that) if there were someone educated in the same field, consumed by similar passions... to talk to about writing or friendship or blah blah blah while walking around Lake P or wherever. I have to remind myself that this is not what happened for a reason.

Anyhow... NM is coming to visit this Friday for Artwalk, and I'm a little petrified. I don't know how to relate to someone who has had a completely different (contradictory) experience from me. I wonder about everything she says now... everything seems like a symptom... I get irritated... I wonder if she's saying something to control me... I wonder what other version happened when she tells me a story. She's not dating anymore - I guess it didn't work out, surprise surprise - and she's otherwise settling down, has a job and soon a place of her own. She still talks tons about what she's doing medically -- naturopathic and holistic -- and I wonder how long those will hold her down. Who knows. Maybe they're the right choices, but how can one be sure when N seems too afraid to name what happened, to identify the nature of her experience? Is it possible for her to really heal if she won't entertain the likelihood that she has a permanent, difficult psychiatric illness? I don't know. It seems unlikely to me, but at this point, that problem is for her to figure out... my problem is to try to figure out how to be friends with someone while having such different experiences of truth, how to keep my mouth shut while still being me (who is someone not good at keeping her mouth shut... I am incessantly, unremittingly honest about my thoughts and feelings... with friends. It seems that if I am not, then I am not really that person's friend, only an acquaintance who does not share). How to relate to someone who hurt me and hasn't acknowledged it?

I also have to search my intentions. Is it possible that I want a "thanks for going through hell for me"? Or maybe I want to be right, to be told that I was and am right, just as NM wants to be right? Or maybe I want golden light to drift down out of the clouds and settle upon me and my work, and suddenly make me popular and productive and beloved simply because I was good and did my best? I imagine there is a little bit of that.

Yeah, so. I'm nervous; I guess that's about it.

I can't believe school is starting back up in two weeks. Ug. Maybe I'll be more productive when I actually have to juggle my time more fruitfully?

In the meantime... I got a nice haircut. It's much shorter, and it feels good. Less messy and weighty. I've been trying to get regular about working out again too... for awhile there, I was doing 45mins a day on the elliptical in addition to whatever dogwalk or swim Herald roped me into. I've slacked off for a three days, but do need to figure out something regular (and cut down on food, if truth be told)... because I've got a decided Buddha belly. After things got really bad with NM, all I could do was eat eat eat, and I put back on all the 15 pounds I lost before that, plus some. So, now that things are calmer, I'm trying to get back on track. I don't mind being a big girl, but I do mind having a fat belly, boobs that would rival Dolly's, and a double-chin. So, time to work them off.

Oh, and SP is coming back soon, and we're planning on taking a trip together. This also makes me nervous... not sure if I'm ready for that kind of thing... but JS told me I needed to learn how to let people be nice to me, and to not expect downfall or backstabbing or abandonment or cruelty or strings as a result. She and Frank basically told me that I'm too suspicious of kindness or generosity (I'm probably equally as suspicious of those who accept kindness or generosity from me, which poses even more of a problem). Heh. So, anyhow, I'm going to give it a shot.

And that's that.